I’m Seeing A Co-Worker, Who Is Separated, But He’s Being Distant

I posted this because I had a friend that was going through the exact same scenario with a married man at her job, but the kicker was, SHE WAS MARRIED TOO! I gave her the same advice, girl you’re tripping.

It’s amazing how many women put themselves in these types of situations and then fall in love with the guy. I’m glad I am not the fall easy type of girl. It takes me a looooong time to commit. I’ll keep it that way.


Here’s my situation – I started seeing this guy that works in my building. I just broke up with my ex due to cheating, and he (the new guy) is going through something similar, so he says.

His wife cheated on him numerous times with a co-worker. I believe him because he went into detail about how he caught her and how he wants a divorce and she won’t sign, blah blah blah.  Well, after talking with him and going on a few dates we slept together and it was great. Then, he started being distant. He used to text me every morning and when we would make plans he cancels with some last minute notice, not always but mostly.

So, I asked him, “Are you interested in someone else, or in getting back with your wife?” They are legally separated, and I wanted to know because I’m not mistress material. And, he got mad and said I’m accusing him and I should just ask, which I thought I was doing. He said he is friendly with other females in our building.

I know I shouldn’t sh*t where I eat, but it was something about him. He was a gentleman. He didn’t ask for sex right off. And, he kisses me like I’ve never been kissed before. I really like him and he says he likes me and that he wants more, but his actions don’t show it. I have started to let him go. What should I do?  Is he a hoe or did this woman, his wife, mess him up to the point that he’s like “F” every broad?

I’ve asked friends for advice and they said maybe the cookie was too good to him and he wasn’t expecting that. He has told me the sex is amazing, but he’s a guy how many so how many times has he said that is what I’m thinking. I’m too grown for this, and I’m new to dating after 7 years of being with one person. I’m 32 years old. I don’t want my insecurity to block a good man that God will send by thinking the worst. – Unsure and Getting Over Heart Break

Read the response to Unsure and Getting Over Heart Break via Dear Bossip: I’m Seeing A Co-Worker, Who Is Separated, But He’s Being Distant — Bossip


Author: brandycavalli

Today's post was by Brandy "Bee" Cavalli. Brandy is an international marketer, freelance writer based in Atlanta, GA.

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